Monday, 19 October 2009

Remote control - sexual circuitry

"Monotones are very useful, and remain a major turn on for me.It also took us a while to get the modes of speech right: "Command. Protocol. Uplink. Established. This. Unit. Awaits.Your. Section". Sounds a hell of a lot sexier than ""yes Master"" .
Quote: Foxdroid.

What is the first image that comes to mind? I'm guessing a mix between the old school funny looking,boxy robots we drew when we were kids and saw in the movies, and the high tech modern robots we see evolving in Japan made to cater our every need. But some of you will get all flustered and hot. Some of you came to my blog for the sole sake of reading about your darkest secret: Your robot fetish.

The net is full of forums and web sites dedicated to this. You would be amazed at the staggering amounts of people who are into this specific type of fetish. Male and Female.
But it didn't use to be like that, and we tend to forget that there was a time when there was no internet. But there has been no time in history when mankind didn't engage in deviant desires.
Some of you will picture these people fantasizing about mechanical engineered sex dolls, high tech and life like creations to substitute a human woman. Sure there are people into that (check out RealDoll) But this is not about high tech or substituting human flesh. It's all very low tech, and some are perfectly happy fantasizing about store mannequins or playing with wind up dolls.
For some of these people Toys R Us is referred to as a fetish shop.

Like with any fetish, this one also branches out to a huge field of different preferences. Some live out their fetish alone, some with partners. Some want to be the robot, others want their partner to be the robot. It can be about the detachment from life, from females, from sex itself. Or it can be a form of dominance and submission, ie taking, or giving orders.
I am willing to guess a lot of you would stay most of your time indoors if you had a naked, robotic partner and a remote control. Don't deny it.
To quote RobotMaster: " I have a strong fantasy about having a device that can be placed behind the ear of the back of the neck of an unsuspecting woman, which will in essence turn her into a robot controlled by remote."
He admits to being very insecure and shy around women. He is, however, actually married to a woman who occasionally lets him act out his fetish. But he prefers the interactive online sex sites where he can instruct the woman to behave robotically. How many of you engage in cyber sex? You all log on to a machine to get your rocks off. He enjoys the ridiculous looking fakeness of his outfits, and like most who share this fetish, he does not want to act the scene out with a real robot. That would be too real, too authentic.

Again, as for most people with a fetish, there is a sense of shame and fear of being looked at as a pervert, or a deviant. So little is known about the number of people who are into this specific fetish. But the number of related websites indicates that there's alot of them. Sex researcher and journalist Katherine Gates argues that this is objectification in it's purest form. Explaining this is a adult version of the doll play we engaged in as children, mirroring our fears and desires. I would say this is a valid point. As children we would set stage for every situation, as we were learning new information everyday. You would pick up a new word, or see something on TV - and the next day you would incorporate that in your games/role playing, with friends or by your self. Consider the popular game of playing house. Certainly Barbie dolls has had a huge impact of girls early experimentation with sexuality. Those dolls were asking for it. There is nothing obscene about that, it's healthy and part of learning. Some just never grow out of the games.

I want to explain the domination and submission side of this. Apart from the obvious (exerting control over another human), it's more than instructing a partner to perform sexual acts. It's the jerky movements, the monotonous speech, the winding up and the winding down. It's controlling life itself in a way. It's total control. But without typical bondage gear, no duct tape, no chains. As in more standard forms of BDSM, there has to be a great deal of trust. I mean if you don't know and trust that your partner is willing to act like robot and react to you every command, there can be no relationship. And like I have claimed repeatedly, the trust and communication in a BDSM relationship is an absolute prerequisite. It beats the vanilla relationships hands down. The BDSM relationship DEPENDS on honesty and trust. Everything must be agreed on, eg there is the contract and the safe word, both common, perhaps vital in BDSM relationships. In a vanilla relationships you have mind games and pouting. That's torture, if you ask me. As strange as the robot fetish might be to you, it is actually very safe and sane. As for the person playing out the role of the robot, we see the same needs as with any submissive human. The need to be controlled, told what to do, to reject all responsibility, to give up their body and soul to someone they trust completely. Being the robot is just another branch of the wide range of submission. I see no difference between being hog tied to a wooden torture table screaming "Thank you, Master!!" for every stroke of the whip. Different strokes for different folks.
(I kill my self.)

There is more to the robot fetish though.
As mentioned the jerky movements, the monotonous voice, the remote control, the on/off buttons, the computer like instructions, down to the fetish attire.
Robotic dolls can be seen as both alive and dead, powerful and helpless, human and machine. Take away humanity and you are left with the flesh, the reproductive organs. Robots can be scary on an existential level. They are created by man, but they can reproduce themselves, and they can, in a futuristic and fatalistic vision, take over our planet and end all life. How's that for a turn on? This dualism, fear of losing humanity/desire to become machine, can be seen in the amazing cult film Tetsuo: The Iron Man by Shinya Tsukamoto. While experimenting with shoving metal into his body, the main character wakes up to the nightmarish realization that he is in fact turning into a machine. His flesh is being taken over by metal. The human in him fights but loses. He ends up teaming up with a metal fetishist, bent on turning the world into metal and rust. Another artist well known for his biomechanical erotic nightmares, is the swiss H.R. Giger. He takes the fusion of body and machine to another level.
That's the scary side of this fetish.

But for the most part we see adults dressed up in home made, low tech costumes. Happy and content with cheesy, blinking buttons and homemade devices, or a make believe wind up between the shoulder blades.
Robotdoll, a self claimed technosexual, carries a wind-up key round his neck in a chain, (several other techonophiles are doing the same as a sign of their affiliation to this fetish). He dresses up in a silver spandex body suit, and his wife uses his belly button as an an on/of switch, and his nipples for control knobs. He looks nothing like a robot to me, but to him it's all he needs. He claims it's a form of meditation, an altered state of consciousness. Much of the thrill for him comes from the transcendence of splitting into two contradictionary parts : One aroused body, the other a pure mind. He does not feel like he is trying to escape emotions, rather like being an object of nothing but emotions and passion. A sex OBJECT, if you will, in the most literal sense possible. It's about controlling the passion, not erasing it.

For others it is about self hate, and the desire to actually merge with the machine, to escape the tormenting feelings of being human. As stated by Fraüline Robot: "I want to be gang banged by these ROBOTS as I KranK up their MusiK! I want to do to THEM what their MusiK does to ME...Machines can't LIE,CHEAT or otherwise HURT me the way humans always do. I can trust machines and kritters. I can NOT trust humans" (sic). This lady has a fascination for Kraftwerk. Yes, the band. She loves them for their mechanical performances, and dreams about building look alike robots in their image. She also wants to place her consciousness inside a perfect android body " so I could ditch my fat, ugly human body."
She also has a fetish for the well known Lieutenant Commander Data from Star Trek: The next generation. The actor playing Data (Brent Spinner) actually receives more erotic fan mail than any of the other characters of the show. (The creators of the series has made sure the fans knows Data functions in that way.) There is a massive community for fan fiction,
and the web is filled with comics, and elaborate art portraying various Sci-Fi heros engaging is unspeakable acts. This is indeed a complex subject, and you can find anyone doing anything anywhere. In slash fiction (gay fan fiction), you will find Spock and Captain Kirk exploring a very different form of space... This is something I will have to elaborate on in another entry.

The autistic author Temple Grandin, also strongly identifies with the android Data, in his clumsy attempts at human behaviour. Living with autism, she feels more related to the android than humans. As someone who has worked for years with children suffering from autism, I definitely see her point of view. I think most of us can relate to the feelings of awkwardness.
Foxdroid is a bisexual submissive who fantasies about abduction, deep mental reprogramming and rewriting of the thought process. For someone, like Foxdroid, who is raised in a strict christian home, the feelings shame and sin can be understood as a trigger factor in the need for not being responsible for his sexual activity. While there are many different takes on this fetish, like any other fetish, in the end it is all about tools for understanding, control or exploration.

This specific fetish has links to female mask fetish, fursuiting (furries, vore, plushies etc.), immobilization (eg mannequins, sleep-fetish and, I would say, to some extreme extent: necrophilia). Let me know if you want me to do blogs on any of these themes, and I will. You may of course write me anonymously, if you prefer.

To end this blog I will say that if you carry a secret desire inside, a fetish you think as too perverted, too weird, something you can't bear to share out of fear of rejection, log on to the forums, talk to people, get some advice on how to introduce your fetish to your partner. You might be surprised. If explained in a thoughtful way, maybe your partner will think it would be good fun to try it out. I will say it again: I love all you deviant humans out there. As long as you are not hurting anyone (unless they want to be hurt, mind you), you are free to do whatever tickles your fancy.

Have a good one, and do remember to come back to my blog for more on the fascinating sides of human nature.

Friday, 9 October 2009

Shame shame shame...

Obama wins 2009 Nobel Peace Price.
For what?
For his "inspiration" and "intentions"....

For his war in Afghanistan?
For being pro capital punishment?

This is a political price, and the many people who have used most of their life fighting for human rights, is yet again left in the shadows.
6 millions goes to someone who has the eyes of the world upon him, how has everything.
Obama has attention and motivation coming out of his ass.

To you people fighting day in and day out for human rights, the little man fighting the regimes...
I am so sorry...

What's the color of money?
It's red.

Never forget.

Sunday, 4 October 2009

Sexual necromancy - illuminating the black arts

"I am all that hath been, and is, and shall be; and my veil no mortal has hitherto raised." -inscription on the tomb of the goddess Isis.

For this entry I will take you deep inside a world of ancient magic and reveal to you one of the darkest of taboos known to mankind.
Fall is upon us, what could be a more fitting subject than the mysterious and dangerous rituals surrounding the dead?

Life and death.
Most of us see those two words as a natural combination.
Others have a more literary take on it.
Going back to ancient Peruvian culture, Homer’s Odyssey, the renaissance demonic summonings. Everything deals with the following four:
1. Life
2. Death.
3. Sex.
4. Power

What would you wish for if you had the ability to control the above 4? All of us have a secret wish, It might be the wish of bringing back a loved one, it might be the secret lust for a beautiful woman that is out of your reach, maybe you want wealth, or power over people that have hurt you. Let yourself drift off into that forbidden fantasy that nobody else knows about, allow your self to fully explore every aspect of it as vividly as you can. Now, come back to reality and feel the frustration of not owning your deepest desire. Feels horrible, doesn't it.
Now, if you had the powers, what would you do? How far would you go?
The question is...would you bring back the dead...would you engage in necromancy?

From the beginning of time we as humans have had these secrets, desires and questions that needs answers. And when no mortal could come to our aid, we have often turned to our dead.
We ask our dead to tell us our future, to reveal secrets, to give us power and knowledge, we ask them to fight for us, to attack enemies or posses others. Several cultures believed that the dead had unlimited knowledge. Some, like the Greek and Romans, believed the knowledge you could access through the dead was limited to that which was within the deceased person's life experience.

In every culture we have funerary rites. We send our dead off to the gods, bringing gifts, amulets and talismans, and sometimes also loved ones (as in the now outlawed Hindu Satī practise, where the wife throws herself on her husband’s funeral pyre.) The Egyptians, and an array of other cultures used their Book of the Dead to help guide their deceased safely in the afterlife. Most cultures believe there is an afterlife, and this being granted, then the dead may hold the key to solving the riddle of eternal life. And if the gods do exist in the after life, wouldn't it seem a waste not to call on the dead and get infinite and eternal knowledge?

Today we call upon so called psychics to help us connect with the dead we can't bear to live without, or to give us the answers we need to find peace in life. But we don't call on our dead to learn knowledge from the gods, we want them to guide us in life. It's a billion dollar industry, talking to the dead during prime time TV, even the police sometimes ask for these psychics for help. Millions of frauds tap into our fear and our sorrow. We want to drag the dead back into our lives asking them to solve what we can't solve ourself. And in doing so, desperately trying to remove some of the paralyzing fear of death. After centuries of evolution, humans still die. And we just can't live with that.

Some cultures takes it even further.
A tale from Egyptian lore is at first glance a romantic and mystical story. Osiris was the king of Egypt and husband to the goddess Isis. Osiris's brother Set was so overcome with jealously due to his brother's power and position, that he lured him into a trap in the shape of a wooden sarcophagus which he threw into the Nile, in order to inherit his power and become king. Isis recovered the sarcophagus and buried him, but Set once again took his body, cut it into 14 pieces and scattered them across all over Egypt. Isis set out to find all the pieces of her husband, but could only recover 13. The missing piece was Osisis penis. Isis knew she had to give birth to a son to stop Set from taking the throne. She molded a phallus out of gold and used powerful magic to bring Osiris back to life, long enough to copulate with him and get pregnant with Horus before Osiris once again died. His souls (in Egyptian religion there are several souls) were in both the land of the dead and the land of the living. Simply put....Isis was having sex with the dead.

It might sound grotesque, but this is actually a metaphor on life, birth and death, or even the harvest it self. Several see similarities with Jesus and The Virgin Mary. (Jesus,the son of a god, gets killed, gets resurrected and brings salvation and eternal life, like Horus did). Some even believe the virgin Mary is actually the goddess Isis, and that Jesus is actually Horus himself. Claiming we are still worshipping Egyptian gods and have been doing so for the last 5000 years. The virgin Mary being the mother of god, and Isis being the goddess of maternity. Some believe the halo on Mary is actually the sun rising behind her, the sun being the creator of all life in Egyptian religion. The same theory goes for Jesus, making him a sun god rather than just the son of god. It's an interesting, but very far stretch, as the similarities tell us more about our needs as humans to create mythology than anything else, not to mention the number of differences and simplifications that prove this theory wrong.

In the Moche civilization in Peru,pottery has been found with images of skeletal figures engaging in coitus with the living. Necrophilia was practiced as a ritual to be able to communicate with the dead, some also engaged in necrophilia in hopes to revive the deceased, much like Isis did. I would go as far as calling these rituals a form of sex magic; the use of sexual energy combined with visualisation. In sex magic, the sexual energy is so potent it can help you transcend to a higher level of spirituality. Some men actually don't ejaculate during sex as they see the male orgasm itself as a waste of energy, whilst the female orgasm is a massive and positive energy that is elevated into cosmos benefiting all of humanity. Aleister Crowley was a great advocate for sexual magick, known for his emphasis on sex as the supreme magical power. He actually used his sperm in his magickal rituals, abstinence was not his cup of tea.
Combining sex magick and necromancy, would make for an intensely potent form of ritual to connect with a deceased loved one. Looking at it from this point of view, it doesn't seem so extreme, does it?

But then we have those that doesn't have a spiritual purpose for their actions. Their practise has one goal, and that is the physical contact with the corpse. They have no desire to reach out to the other side, and converse with the divine gods. I honestly don't think there is a word that can trigger more fear and disgust in us humans than necrophilia. The people with this sexual preference are even more stigmatized than the paedophile.The terms first originated in Krafft-Ebing's Psychopathia Sexualis. (A must have if you don't all ready own a copy) It's a world of total darkness. It's a practise that violates normal limits to an extreme extent. (I am not going to write about homicidal necrophilia/Lust murder as there are a million blogs on that theme, or post pictures of role playing as in all honesty most of the pics look slike something out of a hight school project horror film) If you want a visual approximation, this world is captured in the art film Nekromantik (1987), still banned in numerous countries. In this film there is also a scene very similar to the mytology where Isis forms a phallos for Osiris.

Who are the these people? I have read numerous interviews and cases during the years, and the common factors, are isolation and the fear of rejection. As in one 21 year old woman who had been sexually molested as a child, she describes her self as having "died in spirit", unable to have a sexual relationship with the living she found comfort in the dead. While others attempt to gain self esteem by the expression of power (similar to the expression of power during rape). Contrary to what most of you might think, not all engage in coitus. Holding hands, laying beside the body, washing it and talking to it is very common: The dead can't hurt you. There is a huge community online for the fantasy necrophiliacs and on of the more well known and old web sites, is Vicki's NECROBABES. ( I've tried to get in contact via mail for an interview, but had no luck). She, and her fans, engage in the role playing of playing dead: being manhandled, carried, or put into body bags. She states on her site: I enjoy fantasizing about being killed, this includes handling, and sexual manipulation of my body. It surprises me when guys ask, Why would a woman, like these kinds of fantasies? Why not? Think about it, I'm normally a very independent, controlled person. In my fantasies I am killed. Then I have no more control. My killer can then do what ever he (or she) wants with my body. I don't have to orchestrate, just allow them to indulge themselves. I don't think it's a domination issue, more of a detachment issue." Obviously elements of submission/masochism is involved in her case.

Men and women, young and old, of all ethnicity's and social status, usually with a high IQ, usually heterosexual and more often than not they all share a mental disorder. And according to Franklin S.Klaf, and William Brown who performed a study (Psychiatric Quarterly. XXXII, 1958: Necrophilia) "Inhibited forms of necrophilia and necrophiliac fantasies may occur more commonly then is generally realized." Do you have an ex girl friend or boyfriend who got off to playing dead? Or maybe you do so your self? As long as the fantasy is not put to life, I would say people who day dream about this or act out the role playing with their partner, is engaging in a form of BDSM, as many do. It's no body's business what you do in your own home. For the rest of you who actually act it out, I know it sounds stupid, but do use a condom. And try talking to someone. Not all the living are out to hurt you.

But I would like to say... With what I now have thought you about the powers of sex magick and necromancy, I ask you to be careful.
Maybe your combined supreme sexual energy's will summon someone you really don't want going postal in your bedroom.
I'm just saying.